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Would you rather grow old with someone you "settled" for, or be alone when you are older because you didn't find true love?
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I realize that settling is a state of mind. It is an excuse we use because the person we are with is not what we thought we would end up with initially. However, you are with that person for some reason, so in that you could not have settled. Now if there is too stark of a contrast, maybe you did settle.
Tough question to answer. 51% of me would probably settle while the other 49% of me would rather be alone.
Interesting... So does that mean the 51% would win out due to brut force, and you would settle? Heh.
Female, 41-50 years, Dating, CA, US | Aug 26, 2011
Female, 41-50 years, Dating, CA, US | Aug 26, 2011
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Be alone.
I agree...I'd rather be alone then settle...so I guess it's a good thing neither of us is settling!
i'd settle.
"settling" is a matter of degree, at first. Once you decide to commit, you are just in love and questions of settling are not relevant. If you've been married 10 years and feel like you have "settled", get divorced.
I don't really think you just stumble upon "true love" I think that after being with someone for a long time with your ups and downs "true love" is the product. Two people create true love so I would "settle" so to speak with someone who was a kind person. Thankfully I am married to my true love and 15 years later I love him more than I ever have!
n/a to me .. but if i had to choose be alone ..
be alone
Be alone.
But I'd prefer to grow old with someone I truly love. <3
But I'd prefer to grow old with someone I truly love. <3
Having settled with someone in my marriage and knowing how miserable that is...I would rather grow old alone. Glad I was blessed enough to know now what real love is...
Grow old with someone I've settled for. I believe true love is not the crazy passion we see in the movies. True love is a finding someone with who one can build something long lasting and where both parties find a balance and can grow together. It is as much a decision as something that happens to us. What are our high expectations about life, love and our soulmate worth if they are so unrealistic we can never find someone to be with?
I would rather be alone. I have settled and regret is a horrible thing to live with. Relationships are always a work in progress and you can never let them feel too comfortable. I believe most single people who are older are mostly happy if they have allowed themselves to get over societies standards and live life for themselves.
I'd rather be alone. I've tried settling before and it sucked (not to mention it didn't work out!)
Be alone. I've seen too many who "settled" just be angry rotten people to themselves, their children, their grandchildren etc. If you are truly alone then you have not sought out good friends and places to be fulfilled. It is just a fear of having to put effort in to relationships of all kinds. If both work on the relationship you are never going to just "settle". If you have settled you need to get out and live more.
