I'm sorry to hear that... You should communicate with him.
Female, 36-40 years, Dating, CA, US | Mar 08, 2012

If he is signed up on here and checks this message, he won't be happy that you just put him down publicly. Do all the work for the both of you for now. Be as nice as you can, show as much affection as you can, surprise him with little things you know he loves. If that doesn't make his wheels start moving then you probably shouldn't marry him.
Female, 36-40 years, Dating, AR, US | Mar 08, 2012

Thank you everyone for the great relationship advice! I'll work on this! :-)
Female, 41-50 years, Engaged, VA, US | Mar 08, 2012

Sorry to hear this. I hope things turn around for the better
Female, 41-50 years, Married, GA, US | Mar 09, 2012

I'll pray for u both
Female, 41-50 years, Married, GA, US | Mar 09, 2012

:-)
Female, 41-50 years, Engaged, VA, US | Mar 10, 2012

I'm in the same boat. I'm thinking we are at the end of the road. Thinking its time to plan an exit strategy. He's a great guy but I need more and I've tried until I'm blue in the face
Female, >50 years, Dating, TX, US | Mar 10, 2012

I'm sorry I know it sucks!! My heart is the only reason I have kept on trying so hard to hold on to what we had.... But sometimes I wonder if that just causes me more pain in the end. :-(
Female, 41-50 years, Engaged, VA, US | Mar 10, 2012

I think they quit trying after a while.
Female, >50 years, Dating, TX, US | Mar 10, 2012

Or maybe we get bored after a while, whereas they get comfortable. Waiting around for them to change isn't gonna cut it. Dont wait to speak up and communicate what you want to him. If he loves you and has the time to, he will make the effort.
Female, 36-40 years, Dating, CA, US | Mar 10, 2012

I speak up, then I'm accused of being ugly and nasty and picking fights. I feel that because I have it good he feels that he doesn't have to work at our relationship. He spends more time on his iPad in one night than he does communicating with me in a week.
Female, >50 years, Dating, TX, US | Mar 10, 2012

Well at least I'm not the only one out there feeling this way... Not that I want others to feel this but I was just thinking there was something wrong with me for feeling like this
Female, 41-50 years, Engaged, VA, US | Mar 12, 2012

No you are not alone. It hurts when you feel like you are the one doing all the work to build a future. Men think all that is required is financial. They think once you are in live you magically stay that way.
Female, >50 years, Dating, TX, US | Mar 12, 2012

I understand, the same goes for my "used-to-be- great" relationship as well. From ur answer I am going to guess we're in a similar situation, my fiancé and I cannot do these without the end result being an argument as well. I am spending all m spare time and finances as well... Not to mention we're under 30 (26,27) and have gone from making love 3-5 times per day to now- twice in six months.
Female, 41-50 years, Domestically Partnered, FL, US | Mar 12, 2012

I'm so sorry to hear this! Yes we got this app to hopefully help communication and our relationship! I really pray the best for yawls as well! Also what I'm going to start doing different is backing off a little.... Show less attention and not even stress the things he knows bothers me and hope that when he sees that he will realize what it's like to not have me in his world and in return work harder to keep me in it and/or also realize what I feel like when I get not attention...... This has worked once in past for me... But that was just Highschool.... Well see what happens now... I just fish it didn't have to be games to get us closer and communication was the key instead. Fingers crossed!! For us all!
Female, 41-50 years, Engaged, VA, US | Mar 31, 2012

Oh Sylvia...
Female, 41-50 years, Married, OH, US | Apr 15, 2012