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How comfortable are you being brutally honest with your partner?
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Over the years i've learned a lot about myself. The main thing i learned is that honesty is the hardest thing to achieve, first with yourself, then with everyone else. What you don't realize is that honesty is the best way to build your character, your personal and shared relationships. People can see right through you, and eventually you'll be able to see right through yourself. To be brutally honesty is to have a purely clean, and refreshed soul. I'm learning to be honest about everything.
I'm very honest but never brutal. I think there's a method to say what you want, and you should always think before you speak.
I am not at all comfortable with being brutally honest.
I think it's necessary to be as truthful as possible
Im not comfortable with this at all. Im scared to be honest.
100% comfortable. It's what our relationship is built on!
Varies. There are moments of honesty as well as moments of 'hiding', all depending on the subject, the safety felt within the marriage at that moment (would it be better to come out later vs. now?) and etc. But overall, about 90% honest, with no brutality! :)
I am not at all comfortable with being brutally honest.
Wasn't very comfortable for like the first year or so being super blunt about negative things about him to him, but over time became more and more comfortable letting him know if I didn't like something he was doing. Now I feel comfortable saying whatever is on my mind about him to him.
It depends, but I like to think I'm usually pretty honest.
I struggle with this, usually because I know whatever I need to be honest about has a chance of hurting her feelings. And I never want to do that. Honesty is totally necessary, but can be really hard.
Agreed—necessary but hard. Especially when trying to take feelings into account. I appreciate that you're honest and do that.
Female, >50 years, Domestically Partnered, Gay, CA, US | Oct 25, 2011
Female, >50 years, Domestically Partnered, Gay, CA, US | Oct 25, 2011
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Wow, sometimes he attacks me with "brutal honesty" I feel suspicious, I think there are things we should keep for ourselves.
Pretty comfortable with minor things, but its hard with major issues. I tend to avoid confrontations.
Probably a little too comfortable. I'm guessing "brutally honest" can be a euphemism for "bitchy."
almost 100%
Female, 36-40 years, Dating, CA, US | Oct 26, 2011