Icebreakers
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I think so. I know that I'm very needy.
Lol probably. I come with alot of baggage. And I have an attitude and am very emotional sometimes or cold when it gets super bad.
Extremely! But I wouldn't have you any other way.
Male, 31-35 years, Dating | Dec 25, 2012
Male, 31-35 years, Dating | Dec 25, 2012
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I hope not :/ I never get tired of loving her
HA! Yes, I think so. Sometimes.
I'm a mess from past hurts, but I try to make up for my crazyness , by being extra loving to him. and giving him all he needs and more.
This is my fear
Yea, I am often very impatient, which could just be me, or could itself could be a symptom...
Male, 36-40 years, Dating | Dec 26, 2012
Male, 36-40 years, Dating | Dec 26, 2012
This answer makes me a little sad
Female, 36-40 years, Dating, NY, US | Dec 26, 2012
Female, 36-40 years, Dating, NY, US | Dec 26, 2012
I guess I don't know how to get what I need without driving you crazy
Female, 36-40 years, Dating, NY, US | Dec 26, 2012
Female, 36-40 years, Dating, NY, US | Dec 26, 2012
Agreed. I'm interested in working on this with you
Male, 36-40 years, Dating | Dec 26, 2012
Male, 36-40 years, Dating | Dec 26, 2012
Sorry to make you sad; this is fairly relevant though. I'm worried about this and it helps to know you think about it, for starters. I don't want to get tired of loving you..
Male, 36-40 years, Dating | Dec 26, 2012
Male, 36-40 years, Dating | Dec 26, 2012
I understand that I try your patience sometimes, but I think it's unreasonable to think that things will always be easy and fun. Relationships require work. But I feel like there's more good stuff than bad.
Female, 36-40 years, Dating, NY, US | Dec 26, 2012
Female, 36-40 years, Dating, NY, US | Dec 26, 2012
Don't be incendiary. I could say the same about how you might feel if one day you felt there was "more [bad] stuff than [good]"
Male, 36-40 years, Dating | Dec 26, 2012
Male, 36-40 years, Dating | Dec 26, 2012
Well it's hard to hear tone here. I'm not trying to start something. I just feel like your tolerance for unpleasantries is very low.
Female, 36-40 years, Dating, NY, US | Dec 26, 2012
Female, 36-40 years, Dating, NY, US | Dec 26, 2012
And I will work on being less sensitive
Female, 36-40 years, Dating, NY, US | Dec 26, 2012
Female, 36-40 years, Dating, NY, US | Dec 26, 2012
I agree
Male, 36-40 years, Dating | Dec 26, 2012
Male, 36-40 years, Dating | Dec 26, 2012
But do you think that's a problem?
Female, 36-40 years, Dating, NY, US | Dec 26, 2012
Female, 36-40 years, Dating, NY, US | Dec 26, 2012
Sry, is what a problem?
Male, 36-40 years, Dating | Dec 26, 2012
Male, 36-40 years, Dating | Dec 26, 2012
What are u agreeing with?
Female, 36-40 years, Dating, NY, US | Dec 26, 2012
Female, 36-40 years, Dating, NY, US | Dec 26, 2012
That my tolerance is low. I do also have a vague sense that over time we've fallen into spending more of our time dealing with random skirmishes that pop up, and possibly have been less effective at resolving them (though that could be correlated with them being based on minor things, so there's no big satisfying conclusion that could be drawn)
Male, 36-40 years, Dating | Dec 26, 2012
Male, 36-40 years, Dating | Dec 26, 2012
I think that over time you've become more uncomfortable/more self conscious about "bickering"
Female, 36-40 years, Dating, NY, US | Dec 26, 2012
Female, 36-40 years, Dating, NY, US | Dec 26, 2012
But you think amount of bickering has remained relatively constant?
Male, 36-40 years, Dating | Dec 26, 2012
Male, 36-40 years, Dating | Dec 26, 2012
It's increased bc I didnt used to speak up when you upset me
Female, 36-40 years, Dating, NY, US | Dec 26, 2012
Female, 36-40 years, Dating, NY, US | Dec 26, 2012
And maybe I need to go back in that direction and let more stuff roll off my back
Female, 36-40 years, Dating, NY, US | Dec 26, 2012
Female, 36-40 years, Dating, NY, US | Dec 26, 2012
Well, that doesn't sound very healthy
Male, 36-40 years, Dating | Dec 26, 2012
Male, 36-40 years, Dating | Dec 26, 2012
I dunno. There is probably a balance that we can find. I do feel like you get annoyed very quickly when there is any kind of misunderstanding or issue.
Female, 36-40 years, Dating, NY, US | Dec 26, 2012
Female, 36-40 years, Dating, NY, US | Dec 26, 2012
Actually, I think this might be a robot human issue. I read your response as cold and annoyed but maybe you're just in robot resolution mode.
Female, 36-40 years, Dating, NY, US | Dec 26, 2012
Female, 36-40 years, Dating, NY, US | Dec 26, 2012
And I'm looking for human compassion and not robot problem solving
Female, 36-40 years, Dating, NY, US | Dec 26, 2012
Female, 36-40 years, Dating, NY, US | Dec 26, 2012
Yea, that gets to the bit I alluded to earlier that I don't always feel we're as effective as I thought we used to be at talking through things. I get frustrated when we do a bad job resolving a bicker. If it's a small one, I will hit that point sooner, since I will feel that we should have been able to resolve it quickly
Male, 36-40 years, Dating | Dec 26, 2012
Male, 36-40 years, Dating | Dec 26, 2012
That makes sense. Does what I said about The human/robot thing make sense to yu?
Female, 36-40 years, Dating, NY, US | Dec 26, 2012
Female, 36-40 years, Dating, NY, US | Dec 26, 2012
Yes, but if the "compassion transfer" parts get confused with the bickering parts, that is going to be a recipe for frustration for me. This wasn't supposed to be one of those "the fight is the substance" relationships. I'm not opposed to exploring that some but we should discuss it first
Male, 36-40 years, Dating | Dec 26, 2012
Male, 36-40 years, Dating | Dec 26, 2012
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Most likely
Yes because I can become a very demanding and OCD type person. She is more relaxed and goes with the flow.
Although I find it easy to love myself ;). I image I'm a difficult person to love.
Possible, I like to change things up so things don't get dull. I'll try anything twice and adapt to hints very easily. My optimism makes me hard to disappoint
Yeah. I have a hard time talking about my feelings. I listen pretty well but have disconnect when trying to express my feelings. It's not fair to my partner but I need to pick my game up before its to late.
I'm sure at times it can be. Broken things sometimes take a while to repair. Nothing that love can't fix.
I think sometimes because i'm a problematic person.. And sometimes i stress manhing off with my problems :( i'm sorry, baby..
might stress me off, but i will never get tired or ever leave u! :)
Male, 26-30 years, Dating | Dec 10, 2012
Male, 26-30 years, Dating | Dec 10, 2012
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I think so. It's difficult for me to love myself so for someone else to love me through all that takes a strong man. I have a lot of walls, yet I'm an open book. Contradicting and complicated to understand. I don't get it, so for my partner, emotionally I can be a burden.
Great answer, im the same
Male or Female, 26-30 years, Dating | Dec 27, 2012
Male or Female, 26-30 years, Dating | Dec 27, 2012
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Exhausting I'm sure she would call it. Yet I would say she can be just as equally tiring. ;)~
