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Did you and your partner grow up with good relational role-models?
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I did but he didn't
I did
I think I did. Although I am still trying to unlearn my parents Stoney silences and lack of communication
Yes and no. I wish things were different, but I'm trying to do it different with my boys!
I would say I had good "traditional family" role models however that didn't help me being young and gay and having no one to talk to. It's cost a lot of money in therapy since. Hahahahaha. As for my partner i don't. Believe he had the best role models but can't really speak for him on that one.
I learnt from my parents mistakes. Clear communication, understanding and fidelity are all thanks to me not wanting to be like them.
I think my folks were. You would have to ask my husband if he felt the same about his folks. I think he would say yes.
Given the way he turned out, I'd say yes. My parents aren't so bad either.
I did, with a few exceptions like not learning how to disagree and stuffing emotions. Not my place to speculate about her role models since I wasn't there.
My role models were pretty awful, but from what she's said, hers were much more healthy. I don't think hers ever hit each other, for example.
Not that I know of. As a family, we usually do our damage through guilt and disappointment (equally toxic in their own way), rather than fisticuffs. I think the more interesting question is how you figured out to do otherwise, 'cause you're awesome.
Female, >50 years, Domestically Partnered, Gay, CA, US | Feb 06, 2012
Female, >50 years, Domestically Partnered, Gay, CA, US | Feb 06, 2012
B/c once I got old enough I realized that other people hit back when you hit them. Dunno why my family never figured that one out....
Female, >50 years, Domestically Partnered, Gay, CA, US | Feb 06, 2012
Female, >50 years, Domestically Partnered, Gay, CA, US | Feb 06, 2012
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As a child I think they were great role models. I idolized my parents. However, they had their set of issues, infidelity, and how they chose to deal with it and then ignore it was not ideal.
That was a running theme in my whole family.
Overall though I turned out pretty good. So yes and no.
That was a running theme in my whole family.
Overall though I turned out pretty good. So yes and no.
Yes and no for me and he turned out fine so I guess yes
Ehhh. Not so much. My parents divorced when I was very young, and both continued to have a string of failed marriages. For a long time, I was terrified of getting close to men, and the idea of marriage made me anxious, but with my bf now, everything is different. I'm blissfully happy and it feels right :)
She did but I didn't...& it shows
Y u say it shows
Female, 36-40 years, Dating, LA, US | Feb 05, 2012
Female, 36-40 years, Dating, LA, US | Feb 05, 2012
Cuz I grew up surrounded by failed relationships...so that's how I think it should be
Male, 36-40 years, Dating, LA, US | Feb 05, 2012
Male, 36-40 years, Dating, LA, US | Feb 05, 2012
No u Dnt think like that u just blame ur mistakes on that cause u kno Betta an want Betta u just fuck up anyway an ur not ready to be wit one person fa Eva
Female, 36-40 years, Dating, LA, US | Feb 05, 2012
Female, 36-40 years, Dating, LA, US | Feb 05, 2012
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For myself I can answer no. For my fiancée, I think he would say yes for some parts of his life and no for later parts of his life. We are setting ourselves as good role models for our children though so they will have good examples in life <3
