I think we both grew up with "what not to do" models, however we both grew up with parents that loved us and were good parents just not good at their marriages

Well, on the positive side, each sets of parents stayed together until the end. However, what I remember was years of bickering about money, driving, the kids, etc (mostly money!). Yet, for all that, there was an enduring bond. It was them against the rest of the world. They were determined to live well, to take care of themselves and each other, and to stay together. They were both incredibly f'd up, but their marriage was OK. Not the model I want, but I don't get to choose do I?

Both set of my grandparents have been married more than 50 years! One had been married almost 62 when my grandpa passed on

Apparently not Since we do not get along anymore and have decided to go our separate ways.

My parents weren't good relationship role-models, but my maternal grandparents absolutely were!! They have overcome so many trials and tribulations and still show love to each other all the time, they're fabulous. I think he has seen a mix of both too, and it makes us both resolve to have the good kind.

I didn't, but after seeing the relationships around me, I learned how I didn't want to act when I was in a relationship.

Thats a corny question! But yes

Most definitely. My patents loved each other deeply and it showed. I watched my Mom love my Dad, his many faults accepted. I think that's why I find it so easy to love others along with their faults. That and the strength of Jesus of course!

Nope, not really. Fortunately, her parents are providing a good role model later in life.

Yes and no for both of us. I think both our parents have made a lot of mistakes, but they are willing to talk to us about them and let us learn from them if we ask. My parents have been together for 30 years so that is definitely an achievement!

No, I think that might play a role in our communications issue. We are getting better though. <3 Ant

No, but we recognize that so we make sure that history doesn't repeat. When I realize that my parents actions come through me in how I talk to him, it's frustrating because at first I don't realize I'm doing it

Argh !!!!

Noooo.

Pretty darn good.