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When you are in need of encouragement, what is the best way to let your partner know?
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Good question. I don't know the answer though! Will have to ask my hubby.
Communication...neither of us are mind readers, so it saves a lot of hassle and figuring out of things.
I would not ask her directly but would hope that she would understand I am in need of it.
I think that she knows when I'm in need of encouragement before I do and is good about giving it.
I'm really just not good with requesting encouragement. I usually take the lack of encouragement as a sign that I don't need it and she trusts that I'm going to do whatever it is I need to on my own. She knows me to be very autonomous. I love that :)
Don't really ask for encouragement, my idea is that if I am not doing something well she will let me know and if I'm doing it right she does as well.
I tell him what the issue is and make a puppy dog face. Then he knows to
encourage me and support me.
encourage me and support me.
When I'm in need of encouragement the best way would be to ask for support, a hug, for him to be honest about his opinion and also be positive. Being open is healthy and feels so good. :-)
Ask your partner how things are going for them. Often, this will lead into a response that initiates the need for encouragement by the asker.
Bringing it up casually in conversation or just being real and honest about the issue.
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By just talking openly about the issue, and not waiting until I feel completely overwhelmed. Usually a hug and nice words of encouragement are nice too!
Hmmmm. Usually when I talk about rough times or a problem I have I feel like that should be enough to show my partner that I need support, but often, I feel like he doesn't give it when I need it. I guess I need to communicate this better. Ideas?
Be honest and tell him I need his support.
Telling her is the best way, although often I look downtrodden and on the verge of tears before I tell her, and she picks up on it. Telling her directly is better though.
