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How do you feel about your partner having a best friend of the gender they are attracted to?
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I would have to know the girl I guess...but if I'm being totally honest, I'd hate it. It isn't my husband I wouldn't trust....it would be the girl!
No problem with that.
Not an issue... I trust in her, and in our relationship.
Doesn't bother me, especially as one of my very best friends if of the gender I'm most attracted to and since I'm bi, I always have friends of that description.
I trust him so I do not have a problem with him having friends of the opposite sex as long as it's not hidden.
I wouldn't like it, maybe I'd get used to it. I would allow it though, she can be friends with whoever she wants. And if by some chance she did fall for him, I would be heart broken but it would just mean we weren't meant to be. Point is, yes she's allowed to have male friends, lol.
I don't have male friends, just talk to male co-workers mostly
Female, 31-35 years, Dating, CA, US | Sep 08, 2011
Female, 31-35 years, Dating, CA, US | Sep 08, 2011
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I would like to think that I would be cool with it (or at least learn to be), but that's not really the truth. I'm not used to it since he doesn't really interact with girls much at all and my ex didn't either, so I'd find it really odd and unsettling. Perhaps if he was friends with them from the start or something... I don't know. I'm a complete hypocrite though because all of my friends were guys.
I don't love it, but I wouldn't mind if they are from 'before the relationship.' If he became besties with a girl now, I'd be weirded out by it. Although that's kind of hypocritical of me, maybe.
Trust is something that is very important in our relationship. I would have no problem with it because I trust her. Besides, if the situation came to where she was attracted to that person and acted on it, then it would mean that there is something missing in our relationship. I trust she would recognize that and talk with me about it.
Shouldn't your partner be your best friend? I believe in the line from the movie When Harry Met Sally, "Men and women can't be friends because the sex part always gets in the way"...
He has mostly female friends anyway. The way he acts with them doesn't bother me, the way they act toward him occasionally bothers me, but at the end of the day I have guy friends that I wouldn't give up and he gets the same right. It's unfair to hold your significant other hostage and not allow them certain friends because it makes you jealous.
As long as I've met this friend beforehand, I'd be okay with it. I'd have to admit that I would be a little nervous at first about the possibility of them taking their relationship to the next level.
It's cool.
I am the jealous types!!!
Past male friends haven't worked out in the past. I'm the jealous type.
Male, >50 years, Married, OH, US | Sep 01, 2011