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Jobs and time with our family. Both easily worth it.
He has given up playing basketball all the time and I've given up some family time
I think in many ways we have both given up more than we wanted to in order to make this marriage work. The really cool thing about that is, that it should be that way. Marriage is not an act of self fulfillment but a sacrificial act of unconditional love towards your mate. When two people decide to get married they are essentially deciding to put the others wants and needs before their own and to love that person intentionally.
Sleep!!! <---- out third party
We are trying to give up being selfish. It's easier said than done though. We are learning to consider each other and to listen to each other's point of view. Slowly but surely getting there!
I'm not sure. I am certain she's probably sacrificed something of herself to please my selfish nature.. but I don't think I killed anything off to please her other than my bad habits.
the other life slanging and hanging crack not givin a fuck
Friends
I've given up starting a few more companies, she's given up a lead journalist role at an ideal publisher...and we've both gained time with each other.
weekends with friends.
Our single lives.
Almost everything
Such as?
Female, 31-35 years, Dating | Nov 28, 2012
Female, 31-35 years, Dating | Nov 28, 2012
late nights, friends, sex, lies, gym, questions,
Male, 41-50 years, Dating, NZ | Nov 28, 2012
Male, 41-50 years, Dating, NZ | Nov 28, 2012
I suggest you stop giving things up because I sense resentment for it.
Female, 31-35 years, Dating | Nov 28, 2012
Female, 31-35 years, Dating | Nov 28, 2012
Stay up late. Go and see your friends. Fuck someone else. Lie to me. Go to the gym. I'm not stopping you.
Female, 31-35 years, Dating | Nov 28, 2012
Female, 31-35 years, Dating | Nov 28, 2012
I suggest that you pull your head out of your sorry arse and realize that most of the things I've given up are for a good reason
Male, 41-50 years, Dating, NZ | Nov 28, 2012
Male, 41-50 years, Dating, NZ | Nov 28, 2012
I refuse to be the reason for you giving up "almost everything" in your life. That isn't fair.
Female, 31-35 years, Dating | Nov 28, 2012
Female, 31-35 years, Dating | Nov 28, 2012
There's one thing I haven't given up and that's trying. Seems like we're not on the same page with that though and you want to chuck the towel in.
Male, 41-50 years, Dating, NZ | Nov 28, 2012
Male, 41-50 years, Dating, NZ | Nov 28, 2012
Yeah but you've given up everything else. So now you're making me live with the guilt of that.
Female, 31-35 years, Dating | Nov 28, 2012
Female, 31-35 years, Dating | Nov 28, 2012
Sigh, I didn't write this as the start if a guilt trip. I'd rather you just stepped back and see the person I've become for you and just love that (me)
Male, 41-50 years, Dating, NZ | Nov 28, 2012
Male, 41-50 years, Dating, NZ | Nov 28, 2012
Still feel guilty.
Female, 31-35 years, Dating | Nov 28, 2012
Female, 31-35 years, Dating | Nov 28, 2012
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We've both given up a lot to make our relationship work. She doesn't think I've given up much, but I feel like everything I have up was good for me in the long run to make our relationship better and myself better. I found out a lot about people and how some people have to be left in the past in order to mature as a person
Everything. Him, very little. That little part is mostly money lol. And I don't mean that in a bad way.
Little large amounts of money
Male or Female, 26-30 years, Dating | Nov 29, 2012
Male or Female, 26-30 years, Dating | Nov 29, 2012
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