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Would you rather grow old with someone you "settled" for, or be alone when you are older because you didn't find true love?
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I would rather be lonely and old rather then spend the rest of my life with the love of my life.
I will never settle again, despite my age.
I agree. My previous answer was because it was to rigid an answer option :)
Male, >50 years, Engaged, CA, US | Aug 17, 2011
Male, >50 years, Engaged, CA, US | Aug 17, 2011
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Probably settle, but I wouldn't think of it that way. I'm not sure I believe in that fairy tale "true love". The fiddler on the roof "if that's not love what is?" doesn't sound so bad to me. If we can be together and support/love/care for each other then that's great. Although I wouldn't "settle" for someone I was unhappy with.
Be alone when I'm older. No question.
grow old together
never settle. ever.
Oh that is so sweet
前者。但是没那么悲观的。soul mate需要的不只是缘分，更要慢慢培养出来的默契。意思和你大概一样。
Finding true love implies finding the perfect partner. There is no such thing. The defintion of perfect changes throughout life. Humans are social creatures. If being with someone makes you happy its better than being alone.
Already found true love. I think the concept of settling is so sad, all around. In a way, we all have to "settle" because we are all imperfect people. No one gets a partner without fault, because none of us are without fault. But I believe we love each other, faults included, anyway.
i hate the idea of settling for anything, especially in a relationship. i dont like complacency, i want passion, TRUE love and i want to retain the spark for as long as possible.
Tough question. I guess I would have to go with the "Settled" answer, but I can think of negatives on that side. Being alone when you are old is not healthy unless you like being alone. Shortens your life span
I think we all have to "settle" for something. No one is perfect so you have to learn to accept those things in your partner. Just because it isn't perfect doesn't mean it can't be love.
True love is generated not "found". It comes FROM you, not TO you. We are all human and thus flawed. There will always be someone with the strength to our correct partners weakness. The question really should be "Would you rather grow old with someone you can fall deeper into love with, or be alone all your life chasing the wind? My answer: I'd rather fall deeper in love every day for the rest of my life.
Oh that's a toughie because I do enjoy the company of a special someone, and since I don't believe in "the one" but rather believe in choosing to work it out with someone, there is not such thing as "settling". I would either choose to create love and happiness or not. BUT the really weird thing is that I'm also really happy alone and enjoy doing my own thing in my own company! LOL So I guess either way would be okay with me.
Female, 36-40 years, Engaged, LA, US | Aug 17, 2011
Female, 36-40 years, Engaged, LA, US | Aug 17, 2011
Female, 36-40 years, Engaged, LA, US | Aug 17, 2011
Female, 36-40 years, Engaged, LA, US | Aug 17, 2011
Female, 36-40 years, Engaged, LA, US | Aug 17, 2011
Male, 41-50 years, Engaged, LA, US | Aug 17, 2011
Male, 41-50 years, Engaged, LA, US | Aug 17, 2011
Male, 41-50 years, Engaged, LA, US | Aug 17, 2011
Male, 41-50 years, Engaged, LA, US | Aug 17, 2011