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How do you feel when your partner chooses time with their friends over you?
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I don't mind usually, as long as we have enough alone time together. I want to feel like a priority, but I also want my husband to have enough time with his friends too. It's a balance.
My husband is so busy with work and school that he has no social life. Although at first I would be upset with the idea of him spending time away from me I know understand that it's only healthy to have separate time with friends.
i dont mind as long as she has enough time for me too
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It used to really bug me. It always seemed like he wanted to spend time with everyone but me. Now, having grown up some, I look forward to the times we are able to spend apart and enjoy the company of someone else
It depends. Sometimes we've planned to stay home or do something together and he'd rather go spend time with them so that does get me upset. Or when he tells me he'll be home at a certain time but stays out way longer. But I know he doesn't get to see them that often anymore so I need to learn to relax and just let him go have fun.
She doesn't. Rofl. I have to force her to spend time with them ;p
False! Totally false! I spend plenty of time with my friends, especially in/after class.
Female, 31-35 years, Dating, NJ, US | Jan 25, 2012
Female, 31-35 years, Dating, NJ, US | Jan 25, 2012
I used to have a problem considering I dated cheating lying assholes & was their taxi & not allowed my own friends but now I'm thankful god blessed me with the man of my dreams. Its good when he does cause I can go my own thing we are exactly mutual & most friends aka 90% are couples so I come along with a million percent trust
Female, 31-35 years, Domestically Partnered | Jan 25, 2012
Female, 31-35 years, Domestically Partnered | Jan 25, 2012
I used to have a problem considering I dated cheating lying assholes & was their taxi & not allowed my own friends but now I'm thankful god blessed me with the man of my dreams. Its good when he does cause I can go my own thing we are exactly mutual & most friends aka 90% are couples so I come along with a million percent trust
Female, 31-35 years, Domestically Partnered | Jan 25, 2012
Female, 31-35 years, Domestically Partnered | Jan 25, 2012
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Fortunately - most all of our true friends we share and do stuff together with them. There are so many other things that keep us from spending quality time (kids, work, etc.) together that it is nice not to have to worry about "her friends" and "my friends". I do fight for time with her and will continue to make time for us as a couple a priority.
My partner always chooses me first! ( not just saying' that cause you did!!!)
It did never happen yet. So i don't know.
It's healthy to spend separate time with our friends. As long as there is a good balance of time it's a good thing.
I would never have a problem as long as it is a balance. It's never been an issue for us.
i usually feel pretty upset but then i remember how stupid his friends can be and how they will once again push him to hangout with just me...so im cool with it sometimes, plus he makes an effort for me and him time so im good
When he chooses time with his friends over me I feel that he must need to reconnect with his friends to appreciate time with me, however I tend to feel a little left out of the crowd, as if I'm not as interesting, but overall I understand how important it is to nurture friendships.
It doesn't happen that often. My husband does not get a lot of time with his friends. I don't mind when he goes out with them. His priority is our 3 children and me.
