I'd make him see that his value, his inherent worth, is just that: inherent. Not a product of other people's approval, a sense of busy- ness, how much or long one has suffered, or even outward accomplishments. I would want him to know, to really feel & understand, that he matters intrinsically.

Change his sleep schedule

His cheating ways

I wouldn't change much at all. Pretty much perfect if ya ask me.

he should lose some weight!

his temper

I would change his bedtime! He goes to sleep too late and wakes up too early, therefore doesn't have very much energy for me and our daughter. He'd be a happier guy with a little more shut-eye.

There is nothing I would change about my partner! She is perfect in my eyes.

I'd like to help her see the irrationality from other people's points of
view. Not because she needs to *accept* them, but she says she can't
*understand* them, and that seems to really bother her sometimes and
cause her upset. And I'd take that away if I could.

Her sense of worth as a person . . .which includes her self efficacy.

Nothing!!!! He's amazing flaws an all!!!

A few inches taller

Nothing!

Less interest in video games and more interest in us... Thats not sex related

The extremes, where it has to be either all or nothing.