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Are deadlines healthy or damaging to relationships?
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Very healthy, especially if you are going tantric:)
A deadline is a challenge and any challenge is healthy is a relationship if you tackle it together. Gosh, I should write greeting cards. :)
I suppose it depends on what the deadline is for.
"Deadline" has a negative slant. Call it a goal with a timeline.
We schedule our personal life which is kind of fun as we are always going somewhere and doing something which is nice. If we need to move something we do. I love our lives together.
Dead lines for certain areas should be set, but perception of if this is a deadline or a goal are important! And the area of the context is important. Saying we should set a mutual agreement to active life insurance by XXX is a goal. Setting peramiters like either XXX is done by XXX or the else sounds more of a "deadline" than a goal to me. It shouldn't be we will have sex by the end of the week 3 times. Context and perceptions and agreements to such.
Deadlines, for what?
IDK how to answer that question honestly.
IDK how to answer that question honestly.
It depends on what it pertains to, and the consequences. I think that goals are more productive!!
I don't get this question. Deadlines for life events are a bad idea.
I think deadlines can be either or depending what it is about and it's context, sometimes deadlines are very important otherwise some things would never get done, however if they are creating undo stress then the relationship will suffer
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depends in what context, but imposing deadlines on important relationship issues such as engagement, marriage, or having kids is hugely damaging I would say. Deadlines for other things such as finding a new job, booking a holiday or getting the housework done can be very helpful.
I think deadlines can be both ...healthy or damaging... If the couple has a deadline for a project together, is more likely some extra energy is going to be invested on the project since the couple has a date set to accomplish, in that way, yes is deadlines can be healthy. But if the deadlines are used to only to push a partner to do something, without his/her whole-hearted invested, it can be damaging to the relationship causing conflicts later on...
Generally speaking I think deadliest are damaging to relationships. Particularly deadlines that are external to the relationship itself - family commitments, work stresses etc.
Deadlines for things that can't be controlled are damaging.
Female, 41-50 years, Dating, ID, US | May 08, 2014