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Over the past 5 years, how do you think you have changed, for better and worse?
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for better I have definitely become wiser. for worse I was diagnosed with a disorder.
I have gone through a lot of changes, reflecting a lot on what makes me happy and what and who I want in my life. Being a mother COMPLETELY changed my life for the better. But for the worse I'd say relationships with men have me broken and wounded a little bit. As I get older some days I am more secure with myself while other days (like today) I feel totally insecure and vulnerable.
The past 5 years have been a huge transitional period for me. I had to walk away from a job I truly loved to make me a better stronger person and honestly for years I regretted every minute of it. I used to dream of them begging me to take my job back, giving me the promotion I wanted, I mean it was bad... But it made me find me, had it not happened, things would be so different.
Male, 41-50 years, Dating | Jan 03, 2013
Male, 41-50 years, Dating | Jan 03, 2013
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Getting married, having three kids, then getting divorced has shown me a lot about ppl. It's an amazing feeling to have a child and feel their love towards you. It's a good feeling to figure out who someone really is and to hold your head high while ppl not in your situation criticize you for ending your marriage. It has made me mature a lot, I still like to be goofy, but I have a much different outlook on life now than I did even 4 years ago.
I've learned a LOT about myself in the last 5 years. Major improvements have been made.
I've changed for the better, her help and love has helped shape me as well
The last 5 yrs have been rough. There's been lots of bad and good. I think I've changed a little bit of both but overall it must be good bc without it I wouldn't be me.
Definitely better!
I've matured in many ways and realized how dumb I was and.. eh, lost people and realized that friends don't make me who I am - I make me who I am.
I think I'm on the up swing, but only as of this year.
definitley better
I think I've matured a great deal and grown enough to realize what my priorities should be
I know my limits more readily (better), stand up for myself and recognize people as they are (instead of beating myself up for not changing them) much better than before. I don't have the focus that I used to, but I also think I am a more dynamic and interesting person than I once was because I am experiencing life more than simply studying it from the outside looking in. Also, I demand a partner that challenges me on more levels than just the superficial ones.
I hope I still challenge you on superficial levels :)
Male, 26-30 years, Dating | Dec 26, 2012
Male, 26-30 years, Dating | Dec 26, 2012
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Better
I have shifted my focus away from idealized ambitions and comparisons between myself and others. That kind of focus caused so much pressure, anxiousness and guilt.
I have started to be aware of my needs (those that are healthy and those that cause tension). And I've become more aware of other people's needs. I'm much more able to compromise but I'm also much better at sticking up for or takin care of myself.
Also, i learned how to learn.
I have started to be aware of my needs (those that are healthy and those that cause tension). And I've become more aware of other people's needs. I'm much more able to compromise but I'm also much better at sticking up for or takin care of myself.
Also, i learned how to learn.
That could go both ways for me. Whats my wife say?
