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How do you feel when your partner chooses time with their friends over you?


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It bothers me that when I choose to go out or hang out (which is very,very rare) it is a problem, but for me to say something about her going out with her friends all, every time she gets a chance (I am told I am not her father) and always get an attitude. Oh well
Male, 36-40 years, Dating, MD, US • • Comment
But I don't really care when she goes out, allows me to have a cool 3 - 4 hours by myself (well and the little one)
Male, 36-40 years, Dating, MD, US | Feb 08, 2012

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I am fine with it. She (like me) doesn't do this very often. I understand the desire to hang out with friends away from your spouse, so I try not to make a big deal of it.
Male, 41-50 years, Married, IL, US • • Comment
You have to try to not make a big deal of it??
Female, 41-50 years, Married, IL, US | Jan 30, 2012

No, not try; I just don't think it is a big deal, so I don't make it a big deal. That's all I mean.
Male, 41-50 years, Married, IL, US | Feb 11, 2012

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I don't mind him hanging out with friends, in fact I think he should have more manly time. It would be lame if he chose to hang out with them over me if we already had something planned though.
Female, 36-40 years, Dating, CA, US • • Comment

Lonely sad
Female, 31-35 years, Engaged, MN, US • • Comment

Lonely, sad, unloved. Especially now that I'm pregnant and I feel like we can't enjoy the things we used to
Female, 36-40 years, Married, Bi, MI, US • • Comment
you should shop a lot, eat, see friends, and do everything you would as if you were single! he will start giving you attention once he feels he isnt needed any more( i think).
Female, 41-50 years, Married, NJ, US | Feb 12, 2012

I don't have money, not many friends anymore. I tried just going out while he does but it just makes things worse.
Female, 36-40 years, Married, Bi, MI, US | Feb 12, 2012

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Perfectly fine with me :) we all need time with our friends. Just makes seeing him we he gets home more exciting cuz I miss him wen he's gone :)
Female, 36-40 years, Married • • Comment

Perfectly fine with it because he doesn't do it that often.
Female, 41-50 years, Married, PA, US • • Comment

I usually deal with it. I think time apart is good in limited portions.
Male, 36-40 years, Married, CO, US • • Comment

This is a hard one. In general, we probably all feel it's ok and even important that our partner has time away from us with friends and has a "life outside of the relationship".

The hard part in this question is the "over you" part. That feels more personal, more of a rejection and hurts more. But sometimes we just have to accept that moment, that need, that time it was the priority for a good reason.
Male, >50 years, Married, CA, US • • Comment

It all depends on how I am feeling at the time. Sometimes it bothers me more than others and I just want time with her. It also depends on who it is with. I am normally ok with it if it is just girl friends.
Male, 36-40 years, Engaged, NC, US • • Comment

Hmm depends if we made any plans and if it's often. I'll jus do my own thing if he does
Female, 41-50 years, Engaged, NY, US • • Comment

He neesa his guy time... He has the rest of his life to be with me.
Female, 31-35 years, Engaged, VA, US • • Comment

Everything in moderation is good for you
Male, 41-50 years, Engaged • • Comment

I'm glad he can get out and have fun. So much of his life is about taking care of us that it's nice to see him relax and have a good time.
Female, 41-50 years, Married, Bi, SC, US • • Comment

I feel fine now! I used to get mad but I don't anymore! We have been so close to divorce I don't concern myself with who and what he does
Female, 36-40 years, Married, HI, US • • Comment


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