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How do you feel when your partner chooses time with their friends over you?
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I feel like it's necessary to spend time with our respective friends and it's normal.
I'm perfectly fine with it. As long as the friends aren't excessively chosen over me, its perfectly healthy to spend some time apart.
He needs time alone and with friends separate from me. But I admit to being afraid that it will increase to the point that time away is greater then time together. Fear of abandonment maybe?!?!
I don't like it at all. Not because I'm jealous but because I hate, HATE her friend. But besides that I don't mind if it was any one else becises that one person I'd very very happy, surprised, and impressed.
We both deserve time with friends. I get couples who do it in the beginning with the whole love cave and they spend every waking moment with each other and we did that. But you emerge from love hibernation and your friends and partners friends have missed you guys. You need to have time apart to meditate and also to have stories to tell your partner! I only get upset when I haven't seen him all week and then he chooses friends. Otherwise it's not a problem.
No problem. Everyone needs time to themselves or with their own friends. And like she said, we have a lot of friends in common, so no biggie.
If we have plans to see each other or we've both been working a lot and he gets caught up with his friends or roomies, I get upset. But I do understand he requires a lot of "alone time" and "friend/roomie" time.
I'm fine with him spending time with friends. Friends are needed. The only thing that would upset me would be if we hadn't spent any alone time lately or we already had plans.
It doesn't bother me because it doesn't happen often. When he chooses to spend time with his ex rather than me, that does bother me.
It doesn't bother me to much since I know e doesn't get a lot of time to see them
I'm ok with her going out.
I like that she goes out and see her friends. Of course, as long as her friends don't place weird ideas in her head :S
I rarely choose friends over you
Female, 41-50 years, Married, CA, US | Feb 04, 2012
Female, 41-50 years, Married, CA, US | Feb 04, 2012
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It fine as long as it doesn't happen all the time
Depends on the situation. Usually I don't mind.
I def go out with my friends more than he goes out with his. I'm more social & he enjoys being at home. I like when he gets a chance to go out & do something with his friends. I don't feel that he ever chooses this over me.
