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Usually calmly and quietly. If I'm made I'd rather just be left alone until I get over it. Which is odd because if she is mad I want her to tell me why.
Keep it all bottled in.
Yes. When I was young I had a bad temper.
Anger is a normal part of life. At some point we all will get there. The best way I can deal with anger is to be quiet, think before I speak. Most the time this does work for me. When I act in anger I act irrational without thinking clearly. I make better decisions when I have taken the time to think through my actions.
It really depends. Most of the time I try to think before I respond. I try to talk things out and try to avoid saying things out of anger. If I can't address the issue directly I take it out at the gym or punching bags.
I don't handle it well. It definitely has caused problems but I am working on it.
I think I'm worse at stress than anger. I try to always see the big picture and have empathy for people so I don't get angry.
Female, 41-50 years, Married, OH, US | May 11, 2012
Female, 41-50 years, Married, OH, US | May 11, 2012
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first i talk a little louder. And Louder. AND LOUDER. THEN I YELLL!!!!!!!! RAAAARRR!!!!!
I make it pretty easy to tell when I'm angry and I get loud when I am angry. But it's never caused a problem in my life or relationship. I wish he could handle his anger a little better but we all have flaws.
I use to lash out and was very hurtful so yes it has caused alot of problems. But now i have learned to talk about what bothers me and find a solution to my problems. At first i get really upset but i get over it a lot faster than i use to. Before i could stayed for days now it's just for an hour or so.
I find a way to blow it off, better to take it out on something productive. But it caused problems for me earlier in my life.
It used to be handled with a LOT of yelling. But its gotten down to just talking it out since he is stationed away from home.
I could write volumes here, especially after this morning. Personally I am praying that God would purify and refine the impurities from my heart, that I would guard it more from anger and hate and most of all I am praying that God would begin cultivating a loving (Agapao) seed deep inside my soul.
Upon reflecting, I can safely say I internalize everything. From there it just builds up until I explode. And it's a huge overreaction to the thing that set me off. I usually get angry about things that don't make sense to me. That's why I focus really hard on communication. It used to get me into a lot of trouble. Now I learned to focus it better. For some reason, I just feel better when I break something. So I have a "Dammit Doll" to help out. It's funny and functional!
I don't handle it very well, I've been hurt to many times n if something hurts me I'll let them know...
I bottle it up until I feel cooled down enough. Before it caused problems because I was really passively aggressive, but I've learned it has to be talked about eventually.
Female, 36-40 years, Engaged | May 12, 2012