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Do you prefer to initiate sex or have it initiated for you?


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It's nice to feel like she wants me
Male, 41-50 years, Married, VA, US • • Comment

I like just playing with her, trying to turn her on :). I like dominating so it is quite hot when she responds to my moves :P
Male, 31-35 years, Dating, Bi • • Comment

Either way, I would feel bad if it was one sided though, it should be roughly equal
Male, 31-35 years, Dating • • Comment

Both. I like to know I'm wanted and I want my partner to know I want him.
Female, 26-30 years, Dating • • Comment

Both are healthy, due to each of us know that the other still wants to be intimate with the other. It helps for it to go both ways because there leaves no room for question, plus if I always have to initiate it, I feel like I'm being pushy!
Male or Female, 26-30 years, Dating • • Comment
I agree. I'll get better with that in time... Believe it or not, I'm stilllllll shy (or maybe nervous) 🙈☺️ Especially when we go days or weeks at a time without seeing one another (face to face). 😋
Female, 36-40 years, Dating | Apr 06, 2016

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I dont really love being sexual with people often. I have a lot of trust issues with people and I haven't been able to get past it yet. He initiates more than I do.
Female, 26-30 years, Dating, ME, US • • Comment

Either!! And FYI... I will never EVER say no to that gorgeous sexy man!! He REALLY cranks my tractor!!😂 But seriously, sometimes I'm in my head, thinking, going over all the details of my day, and all I need is a touch or kiss or even a look from this man...😍
Female, 41-50 years, Dating • • Comment

Either is fine with me :p I don't mind doing it as long as I can tell she's in the mood. It's really hot when she initiates it though 😏😍
Male, 31-35 years, Dating, NY, US • • Comment

i like a nice mix, she doesnt seem to like it to much so i try to let her initiate but sometimes i cant help it
Male or Female, 21-25 years, Dating • • Comment

Part three to this question:

If I initiate most of the time then I kind of feel like he's just obliging me, not necessarily doing it because HE wants to.

Don't get me wrong, I'll initiate and I have no problem with it so long as I believe that it's mutual.
Female, 41-50 years, Dating, FL, US • • Comment
Damn it, I just gave this long three part answer to this question and it only shows one of them!
Female, 41-50 years, Dating, FL, US | Feb 11, 2016

Okay, part one: I prefer when he initiated because it makes me feel like he wants me for his own reasons rather than because I came on to him, went out of my way to be sexy, or provoked him in any way. That's kind of important to me due to things I've been through in the past. I guess I need to feel wanted in that way.
Female, 41-50 years, Dating, FL, US | Feb 11, 2016

Part two: I want it all the time but I don't want him to think I'm a complete nympho or that that's all I want. I love him for so much more than that but my sex drive is off the charts.
Female, 41-50 years, Dating, FL, US | Feb 11, 2016

I'm happy to initiate more because I think he would like that but I'm always so subtle about it that I don't think he even realizes that I'm doing it. I do little things just to feel out whether or not he is in the mood and if he reacts to what I do then great! If not, I usually just let it go. But I'll try to be more direct from here on out.
Female, 41-50 years, Dating, FL, US | Feb 11, 2016

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It's good when she gets on kinky shit randomly. Surprise me with a bj or 4 lol. I like to initiate as well
Male, 31-35 years, Dating, IL, US • • Comment

I think both would be good
Female, 31-35 years, Dating • • Comment

I prefer to have it initiated but I know it had to work both ways
Female, 36-40 years, Dating • • Comment
I'm going to try to seize the moment more often from now on, I'll try to be a bit more commanding in the bedroom and just initiate if it feels right.
Male or Female, 26-30 years, Dating | Dec 30, 2015

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Bothhh
Male, 21-25 years, Dating • • Comment

Both!! I love when she comes on to me it absolutely drives me wild 😍 and I love putting the moves on her, I love knowing I turn her on! It's definitely a win/win for me 😍
Male, 41-50 years, Dating • • Comment
I love both as well. You drive me crazy, I can't keep my hands off of you. And I love feeling desired by you. You make me feel wanted, and it's so great. It's a win win for sure❤️
Female, 41-50 years, Dating, LA, US | Feb 05, 2016

que sea cariñoso
Male or Female, 26-30 years, Dating | Feb 05, 2016

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