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Do you prefer to initiate sex or have it initiated for you?


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No preference, though my wife might think I prefer her initiation.
Male, 26-30 years, Married • • Comment

I think it should be both ways and I need to work on initiating it.
Female, 41-50 years, Married • • Comment

depends on my mood.
Female, 36-40 years, Married, Bi • • Comment

I love my beautiful wife. When I initiate it sometimes feels like you are just to tired because you don't seem to be responding. I will stop rather than be pushy.
Male, >50 years, Married, IL, US • • Comment

I prefer for him to initiate it...
Female, >50 years, Dating, TX, US • • Comment

Yes!
Male, >50 years, Married, Gay, CA, US • • Comment

Both. The more the merrier.
Male, 41-50 years, Dating, Gay • • Comment

I LIKE BOTHHHHHHH
Female, 41-50 years, Dating • • Comment

I always initiate it, would be nice for her to initiate it once in a while.
Male, 41-50 years, Married, TX, US • • Comment

Both
Female, >50 years, Married • • Comment

Him to initiate it.
Female, >50 years, Married • • Comment
I know. Our sex life is almost non existent now. I wish I knew the answer. I think we just need to continue to work on things and remember we love each other.
Male, >50 years, Married | Feb 09, 2014

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Initiated definately. Everyone wants to feel wanted and when your partner initiates intamacy it's an indication that your desired. Sometimes I intiate, but lately I have had a low libido and I have let it dictate those moments for me.
Male, >50 years, Married, VA, US • • Comment

Initiated. I like to feel wanted.
Female, 41-50 years, Domestically Partnered • • Comment
I like both sometimes.
Male, 41-50 years, Domestically Partnered | Apr 13, 2014

I like both too. When I'm feeling sexy it's nice to initiate and feel like I can drive you crazy with desire.
Female, 41-50 years, Domestically Partnered | Apr 13, 2014

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Initiate.
Female, >50 years, Married, Gay, IA, US • • Comment

Have it initiated
Female, >50 years, Married • • Comment


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