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In a conflict or argument, do you prefer to resolve it now or resolve it later?
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It depends, something's need thought and calmness first
Later....
solve it now
We talk about it and also pray. My husband in I believe through the help of the Holy Spirit we can solve conflict
I would much rather solve it now so the rest of the day could be productive instead of being upset.
get it out of the way.
The conflicts we seem to have typically are to complex and layered to resolve all at once.
There is a time and a place for everything. Some things have to be put off in the interest of time, privacy, logistics. Also, sometimes it is better to have time to reflect and get perspective. However, we tend to put things off too long-- I think because our alone time feels too precious to squander on conversation that could cause pain or discomfort. I want us to get better at facing things head on - not maybe right when they come up, but as soon as possible afterwards. I think that is why I had those panic attacks last weekend and just could not face your daughter--- I think if we had addressed things more explicitly from the beginning it wouldn't have gotten bigger and bigger for me. I should have seen that coming and I should have forced myself to face it before it got out of hand. I just want things to be more comfortable for all of us at that house in the future... Family holidays WILL come up and I want to be able to handle that well. I love u.
Female, >50 years, Married | Jun 13, 2014
Female, >50 years, Married | Jun 13, 2014
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Now but I do realize later may be more appropriate in some circumstances - he makes me wait most of the time and it's better that way
depends on what it is. sometimes i can be all passive aggressive and not want to deal with it until i'm ready to. other times it's just easier to deal with it now and get it over and done with.
it seems to work out better later after the dust settles and we sleep on it
Now.
I hate confrontation and I will avoid it any time I can. If it happens, I want to resolve it right then and there.
Now, as long as it is an appropriate place
I'm a now kind of guy but my wife tends to mull things over for awhile. It's difficult to wait for her but when she does come back with her thoughts they are meaningful and powerful.
Now, never go to bed angry...
