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Do you care more about pleasing your partner or speaking the truth? What is one instance of this?
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I try to do both. But I lean on pleasing you.
During the past few years I care much more about speaking the truth. I have learned to try to be authentic and treat others as I would like to be treated.
Usually it is pleasing her but I have been trying to speak up more often now.
Usually truth, but hopefully nicely - not in anger during a fight.
Honestly, I've kinda been more about pleasing him because I used to be scared we would argue over my true opinion. But ever since the miscarriage I have been more honest about my opinion even if he doesn't like it I don't care it's my opinion. The truth sucks sometimes but honesty is the best policy
Um both. How can you please your partner with lies?
I'd rather tell the truth...the first time. Always. It's always pleasing to know that you're being told the truth.
Probably the truth. There have been many a time when we have disagreed on various topics, particularly philosophical or political, so that is one instance where I would rather truth of my opinion rather than placating him. I think he prefers it that way too.
The truth should always be pleasing... If one partner is having doubts or temptations, it should be discussed openly, honestly, & without judgment - which could be painful at the time, but, in the long run, much more pleasing than *not* being truthful and allowing such things to turn into something that could tear the marriage apart.
Waarheid al vind ik dat heel moeilijk omdat hij t altijd verkeerd opvat
not always easy, but the truth is the only way to go
Speaking the truth....which often gets me in trouble.
Speaking the pleasing truth...;-)
The thing is I've always asked for the truth even if it upset me. Why sugar coat or outright lie? That's damaging to relationships. So I believe in truth.
I care more about the truth being pleasing to my partner :) So that's why I want to create a good future for me, her and our cute little girl xx
