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Do you prefer to initiate sex or have it initiated for you?


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I've got a rather dominate personality in my everyday encounters. My husband is rather laid back and easy going. Because of those dynamics, I like for him to initiate sex, perhaps I like the dominance he exhibits when I'm my most vaunerable. Many times I'll flirt subtly to get him to initiate.
Female, 41-50 years, Married, TX, US • • Comment

I'm tired of initiating.
Male, >50 years, Married, CA, US • • Comment

Both. Love being ravished and flip side is just as good sometimes better when we're one.
Female, >50 years, Dating • • Comment

Me gusta cuando la inisias tu,me vuelve loca!!!
Male or Female, 31-35 years, Dating • • Comment

I love when he initiates it, it makes me feel like he loves me and wants me. I have in the past felt rejected when I have initiated it, so I don't very often.
Female, >50 years, Married, IA, US • • Comment

I prefer when he initiates, when it's almost /always/ me initiating I feel unattractive and unloved.

Female, 36-40 years, Married, NY, US • • Comment

often prefer to have it initiated as I'm essentially very lazy and can't be bothered!!
Female, >50 years, Dating, ENG, GB • • Comment

I prefer my man initiates it!!! I love being seduced lol ;)
Female, 36-40 years, Engaged • • Comment

both
Female, 41-50 years, Married, NJ, US • • Comment

I don't mind initiating, but I love it when he does. I love the feeling of being wanted and it makes me feel super sexy ;)
Female, 31-35 years, Engaged • • Comment

Umm, I like to
Female, 36-40 years, Dating, AZ, US • • Comment

I definitely prefer to initiate it... Mostly because I know when I'm in the mood :P
Female, 41-50 years, Married, MS, US • • Comment

I prefer him to but my faborite is when it is not expected at the end so I feel like I have some control and I am making a decision. Then it is much more relaxing and enjoyable. I love kissing him but he does not seem to want to do that often.
Female, >50 years, Married, CA, US • • Comment

I prefer that she initiates it. If she's not feeling it, I get all screwed up in the head and lose my confidence and start thinking too much. When she's in the mood, everything is great. It's much easier for me to get in the mood if she is, than for her to get in the mood if I am.
Male, 41-50 years, Married, MS, US • • Comment
True dat!
Female, 41-50 years, Married, MS, US | Jul 14, 2012

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I like it more when she makes all da moves, it turns me on way more...
Male, 41-50 years, Engaged • • Comment


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