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Do you prefer to initiate sex or have it initiated for you?
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Dos el segundo mas juji
If you want it, get it.
I think I like it when it's a mutual thing😁
I love both! :)
Las dos a veces mas la segunda
Female, 41-50 years, Domestically Partnered, JAL, MX | Jul 16, 2012
Female, 41-50 years, Domestically Partnered, JAL, MX | Jul 16, 2012
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I do prefer when you initiate... It is a huge turn on and I think about it for a long time... I do at times get very insecure initiating- especially in a "take control" manner because so many times I feel that you aren't into it... It can be very discouraging- esp if no clear reason is given- to initiate and get rejected.
(sorry I guess my answer was too long)
I realize it may seem like i would initiate every night if given the opportunity, but I'm learning that that isn't what you want and we have to find some middle ground. Sometimes it seems as if we are waiting for that "perfect moment" when instead we have to make the "moment perfect"
Male or Female, 31-35 years, Dating | Jul 16, 2012
Male or Female, 31-35 years, Dating | Jul 16, 2012
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Both
It's nice to have it initiated every now and then. Half and half is good.
Either way, I think both is good as long as we end up having sex it's all good lol
I want him to initiate sex, but it's fun when I ask, especially by seducing him. I enjoy that the most :)
If you enjoy that the most then why not do it more often :D
Male, 36-40 years, Dating | Jul 15, 2012
Male, 36-40 years, Dating | Jul 15, 2012
Lol it has to be the right moment and I need to be into it in that moment or else it wouldn't work :p
Female, 31-35 years, Dating, CA, US | Jul 16, 2012
Female, 31-35 years, Dating, CA, US | Jul 16, 2012
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I think both people should!...to keep the fire going!!!...everybody wants to feel wanted!!
Both. I love when he initiates things because I love seeing how attracted to me he is and how excited he gets that we get to share some "adult time" but I also know how much he loves when I do the initiating and how it catches him by surprise whenever I do, and I love to see his expression when that happens! :) he's so sexy, I don't care who initiates, I just love being with him!!!
I do like her to initiate it, As I don't liked to be turned down...But I do initiate it if I really want to.
Have it done for me... Can I just lay there?
That sounds about right
Male, 36-40 years, Engaged, OH, US | Jul 16, 2012
Male, 36-40 years, Engaged, OH, US | Jul 16, 2012
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Either way, as long as we're having it!! Don't want her to ever feel like she has to though. Seems i want it more often than she. 😁
I love when he initiates it but I knows loves when I do it.
