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Do you prefer to initiate sex or have it initiated for you?
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I like him to mostly. It's such a turn on watching his intense expressions, & knowing/ feeling, how much he wants me.
It's a joint decision. But if I don't follow or give him a sign it's okay he goes crazy
I think it should be back and forth both partners need to feel wanted
It depends on my mood! I could but it's sexy to see the different signs he!
I prefer to have him initiate sex.
I prefer to have her initiate sex. It has nothing to do with gender roles. It is too cliche to say that I as a man am ready more often BUT I feel that I am able to distance myself from the issues of the day as well as future things allowing me to have a free mind and let go. It burns to be the one to initiate only to feel that the other wants or needs to stop or continues even though they are not really in the mood.
Male, 36-40 years, Dating, CA, US | Jul 23, 2012
Male, 36-40 years, Dating, CA, US | Jul 23, 2012
Such small acts are able to have any partner question themselves, their desirability and the health of the relationship. To avoid that hurt I feel the need to not put myself in that situation very often, even if that means less physical intimacy. If she is wanting to be intimate, I am more often than not able to switch off my runaway brain and simply desire her. It is NOT the others fault by any means. Better communication is needed between both. Intimacy can not form if the other feels rejected in any way.Those bad feelings have a bad way of coming around the next time and the time after that.
Male, 36-40 years, Dating, CA, US | Jul 23, 2012
Male, 36-40 years, Dating, CA, US | Jul 23, 2012
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I wish it would be initiated by her, not always but from time to time. I dont mean 'today its possible: lets have sex'
i know this is one of my big lackings. i just cannot do it. this would need more than safety and trust. i dont have both.
Female, >50 years, Married | Jul 23, 2012
Female, >50 years, Married | Jul 23, 2012
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Since a big turn on is knowing she is excited I like it when it's initiated, but I know she likes it when it's initiated too. So that's kinda sexy too.
It all depends on the mood. Usually I like it when he does it.
I prefer to have sex initiated for me. Nothing is better then knowing she needs me right then and there :)
I would love her to but usually it's me
him to initiate on me
Depends
I like when he does it cause it let's me know that he's into me, but I have no problem starting it if I'm in the mood.
I would want him to but It couldn't hurt for me to try
I prefer to have sex initiated.
